Sadly most domestic abuse that occurs in a home where children are present is witnessed by those children, states Winn’s DART advocate Annie Goods.
“In fact, one study found that 90% of children in violent homes have seen one parent physically abusing the other. Some children in the U. S. live in families in which domestic violence occurred at least once in the previous year.”
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, witnessing violence between parents is the most influential risk factor for children to carry violent behavior from one generation to the next. Boys, especially who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse a partner as an adult.
KIDS KNOW WHAT’S HAPPENING: There is emotional trauma when a child has been subjected to that type of experience. It’s due to no fault of the survivor, but the violence does emotionally and physically affect children. It puts them in places of complete chaos. Later on in life, there is a propensity for this child to be violent because of this.
THE EFFECTS OF LIVING WITH VIOLENCE: Children respond to domestic violence in various ways and the effects will vary by age, but some signs to watch for that indicate trauma has occurred or is occurring include:
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Aggression
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Behavior Problems
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Trouble interacting with peers
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Being emotionally withdrawn or detached
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Separation anxiety
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Fear
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Anxiety
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Low self-esteem
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Difficulty concentrating
According to the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, the most important step to take when children are exposed to domestic violence is to remove them from the situation and place them where they feel safe, as well as making sure they see their abused parent or caregiver is safe. Also, helping them plan strategies for staying safe gives them a sense of control and helps them feel less vulnerable.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, contact DART’S local office at 318-648-0559 or the 24 hour crisis hotline at 318-251-2255 for confidential support and assistance.